Photo by Eddie Kopp on Unsplash Aggression from our sweet kids can really throw us off balance. When our 2 year old bites a friend, our 4 year old whaps us in the face during playtime, or our children physically fight one another, we often feel confused, isolated and very angry ourselves. Parenting by Connection has some interesting and practically useful views on aggression; a supremely helpful idea championed by this approach is that an aggressive child is a scared child. A short explanation of brain science may help to illuminate why. The human brain can be viewed in a simple way by seeing it as a vertical chain. The brain stem at the bottom controls life processes such as breathing and temperature, and is the part engaged when the fight or flight response is triggered. The next level up is the social emotional centre of the brain, known as the limbic system. Here is where our long term memories are stored, and it is the part of the brain we use to scan...